The type of addiction which people typically have some understanding of or relation to is substance addiction where drug and alcohol are typical examples.
However the other type of addiction is far less understood and far more stigmatised. I'm talking about behavioural addictions. It is a type of addiction that involves a compulsion to engage in a rewarding non-substance-related behaviours despite any negative consequences to the person's major life areas such as physical, mental, social or financial well-being. Examples are gambling and sex addiction.
This is also where porn addiction fits in, it too is a behavioural addiction. It's also an extremely devastating addiction as it ties into the sexual behaviours and romantic connections with loved ones. It's also the addiction with the highest volume and intensity due to the fact that it's legal, cost no money and are constantly available in difference to all the other addictions which don't check of all those circumstances and are therefore naturally less intensity because they are far less available.
Below is a list of criteria which can help you determine weather or not your partner is at risk of being addicted to pornography:
Hiding of the behaviour
Porn usage has caused damage to major life areas, and still engage in the behaviour
Expectations about sex are unrealistic and partner has expressed their discontent but the demands continue
Having a feeling take over you and you feel the need to go use
Being unable to be productive and focused
There is a desire to stop, but any attempt to stop is a failure and the behaviour continues
The usage is escalating, and or need more for the same effect
Depression and anxiety can also come with addiction
Inability to really concentrate and focus
Gets easily angry, and temper might have even escalated beyond yelling and partner may be punching, breaking, and throwing things in rage.
Obsessive thoughts about when and how to use
Loss of interest in sex, and/or are experiencing sexual dysfunction like delayed ejaculation, pre-ejaculation, erectile dysfunction.
Spending lots of money on acting out and getting into financial instability
Lost or weakened attraction to partner
Anxiety rises at the thought of being unable to use
All of the above does not have to be present and can be hard to judge as a partner, but identifying several of the above is an indicator that your partner is addicted to porn.
Like all other addicts, porn addicts are self medicating trying to deal with for example, anxiety depression and or a past trauma.
Many people claim porn is innocent, but when it get’s into higher usage, porn is damaging. It’s not only men addicted to porn though, there is a rise of women getting addicted to porn as well. Addiction does not discriminate.
What is absolutely crucial for you as a partner to understand is that YOU ARE NOT THE CAUSE OF THE ADDICTION.
As with all other addictions the reason for porn addiction is always without exception to the rule found within the addicted person. Read this peace again and truly let it sink in because recovery from betrayal trauma can't take place without understanding, accepting and realising this.